This paper sets forth the Traumatic Narcissism Theory and will define and clarify the following terms: traumatic narcissism; narcissistic abuse; the traumatizing narcissist; the traumatizing narcissist’s relational system of subjugation. The Traumatic Narcissism Theory is intended for the treatment of victims of narcissistic abuse, distinguishing it from other psychoanalytic theories intended for the treatment of pathological narcissism and individuals diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This paper identifies eight specific abusive behaviors deployed by the traumatizing narcissist that are subjugating and traumatizing